So often we wish for clear instructions. If you do this, that will happen. Or a, b, and c will definitely lead to d. But life isn’t like that – as we see with Amy Young’s delightful post. I love American football and I don’t love baseball, but I appreciate her wonderful illustration. Enjoy! (And Go Broncos! Go Vikings!)
Although I’m grateful for the Lord’s prayer, I wish that the disciples would have asked Jesus another question. In addition to asking Jesus to teach them to pray, I wish they’d also asked Jesus, “How does prayer work?”
You’ve also probably wondered how prayer works. In my imagination (see Chapter 6 of 7 Ways to Pray), I see a group of us around the table enjoying a meal with Jesus. The conversation weaves around and in a lull I ask Jesus my question: “How does prayer work?”
Since I’m at the table with Jesus and he is earthy and relatable, I believe he would use sports and parts of modern life in his answer. (If there’s one thing to know about Amy Boucher Pye and me, it’s that we love American football. If you hear loud cheers (or groans) for the Vikings or Broncos, chances are it’s one of us.) Jesus smiles at my question about prayer, leans back, and begins to tell a parable.
I lean in and this is what Jesus shares.
Prayer doesn’t work like a vending machine where you insert coin after coin, select D6, and wait expectantly for the candy bar you selected to pop out of the bottom of the machine, virtually guaranteed of the outcome.
Instead, prayer is like a baseball player who steps up to the plate, bat in hand ready to take his turn at bat. He never knows exactly what will happen, but he knows the rules of the game well enough to know what could happen. He could strike out or he could be walked to first base . . . or better yet, he might get on base with a hit. That same batter doesn’t know when he steps up to the plate the duration, will this be a short at bat that will end disappointingly after only one pitch? Or is he about to engage in a long at-bat in which the exchange between the pitcher and the batter almost seems like a battle?
Sometimes the batter won’t have to do much and he gets on base and is able to score a run for his team. Other times his turn ends in frustration, even anger at a poor call by the ump. And he stomps off indignity after being treated so unjustly!
His at-bat could result in getting to first base, which of course is exciting, or he could hit a double or even a homerun. On rare occasions the batter finds himself at a crucial point in the game as he steps up to the plate and the outcome of his at-bat can really affect the game’s outcome.
It’s not that prayer is a game between you and God or that God is the umpire judging the pitcher and the batter. Instead, prayer is an endeavor that involves the dance between the predicable and the wild. It embodies hope and longing, and the risk that unlike a vending machine, there are no guarantees. Prayer teems with anticipation, the collective holding of the breath of everyone watching, the longing for what could be, and the eruption in celebration when the crack of the bat is heard throughout the ball park.
You’re not guaranteed a specific result when you bat in a baseball game, but you are guaranteed that something will happen. So it is with prayer; mystery, skill, effort, beauty, and even love mingle together as you take your turn and offer your prayer.
Jesus looks me full in the eye as he says “and offer your prayer.” He knows in my younger years I played on a youth softball team and wasn’t very good at batting. If prayer is like that, Lord help us, Lord help me, we’re in trouble.
Jesus continues:
Amy, when you only think of baseball on the major league level, sure, you see the sport at its highest level, but you don’t see it as its richest. There are little leagues, company teams, and far more who play for the love of the game than because it is their job and they’re professionals. I’m not asking you to be an all-star; I’m inviting you into a relationship.
I reflect on the conversation as the meal comes to an end. In truth, I offer some of my prayers easily but others with weariness because I’ve been praying them for years. Thrillingly I’ve experienced answers to prayers that go far beyond what I could have imagined. I’ve been confused, frustrated, disappointed, delighted, in awe, and humbled by my prayers and the responses from God. While I wish at times prayer was more like a vending machine, in truth, I don’t actually prayer to be like that because then I’d be in control.
So, the next time someone asks you, “How does prayer work?”
You can smile and tell them, “Prayer works like a baseball player who steps up to the plate, bat in hand ready to take his or her turn at bat, never sure exactly what will happen, but willing to take a swing all the same.”
Lord, help me to be such a baseball player. Amen and amen.
Amy Young: Life enthusiast. Author. Sports lover. Jesus follower. Equipper of cross-cultural worker. Amy is the founder of Global Trellis, co-founder of Velvet Ashes, hosts reading challenges at The Messy Middle, and is the author of 5 books for Great Commission cross-cultural workers.
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The grass withers and the flowers fall,
but the word of our God endures forever. Isaiah 40:8, NIV
For a mini-retreat, take a few moments to ponder the passage from Isaiah’s prophecy and consider my dad’s wonderful painting of the pampas grass and evergreen tree.
Grass withers and flowers fall – take in the beauty of the grass with the autumnal colors mixed in, situated next to the evergreen tree. How might the evergreen tree symbolize God’s enduring word?
Perhaps you’re feeling burdened with many cares and complaints. Think also of Jesus’ loving admonition in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 6:26–30, NIV) related to the grass of the field:
“Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?
“And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith?”
Give Jesus your burdens and remember that God loves you so much more than even the beautiful things he’s created.
[Painting by Leo Boucher. Shared with permission; all rights reserved.]
How can we look back with God in order to move forwards? Penelope Swithinbank shares from her years of spiritual direction how she helped someone recalibrate her decision-making process as she discerned her movements towards and away from God through the prayer of examen. I love the hands-on nature of Penelope’s exploration of this prayer practice, which can enrich our lives.
Laura twisted her fingers and heaved a deep sigh.
‘I really don’t know what to do,’ she said. ‘I think my job’s about to be made redundant; my parents aren’t well and maybe I should move closer to them, but I love my job, my church and my home here. How do I know what God’s plans are for me? What if I step out of His plans?’
As her spiritual director/counsellor, I felt God nudging me to give Laura a challenge. I suggested to her that for the next month, four whole weeks, she should ask herself two questions last thing at night.
First, a question of consolation. ‘What am I thankful for today?’ ‘Where have I known true joy today?’ Or, ‘Where did I see God at work?’
And then a question of desolation. ‘Where did I fail God today?’ ‘Where was I not at peace today?’ ‘When or where was I not content, not filled with God’s Spirit?’
I suggested Laura jot down her answers to the questions, just briefly, so that in a month’s time she’d notice any patterns, anything important, anything that the Lord wanted to point out or suggest to her.
These two questions are the basis of the ‘Examen of Conscience,’ a centuries-old way of praying that helps us detect God’s Presence in our lives and discern where He is leading and guiding us. It was used by Ignatius of Loyola, (16th C) who recommended praying it daily – and then twice a day, so that people keep short accounts with God.
Dennis Hamm describes it as ‘rummaging for God’ and says it’s like ‘going through a drawer full of stuff, feeling around, looking for something that you are sure must be there.’
It’s a rummaging back through the day, knowing that God was there, and we want to discover and be reminded of just where and how He was with us. A prayerfully going backwards through your day, with God’s help, to discern what’s most important – the things of God.
We want to hear His voice today, not close our ears, (i) and the Examen is one way to help us to do that. While the traditional name is The Examen of Conscience, which sounds as though you’re just looking for moral failures, the word ‘conscience’ probably had a deeper meaning of ‘consciousness,’ of being alive and acknowledging it mindfully. And of being grateful for the many gifts and blessings of the past twenty-four hours. Who doesn’t like getting gifts – but how often do we give thanks for God’s gifts each day?
Laura agreed to the challenge – and was very excited to try it. She even bought a lovely new journal for her daily Examen night prayer. Not everyone writes down what happens during the Examen, but I wanted Laura specifically to look for patterns and rhythms as she talked with God. I suggested that she begin each time by inviting the Lord to come and be with her and speak to her; then to ask herself the two questions and talk with Him about her answers, and finally to invite the Lord into what might lie ahead for the following twenty-four hours. (ii)
A month later, a peaceful Laura reported back. Her earlier worried questions had receded, because she had discovered something far more important than the specific whats and wheres and hows.
‘God’s plan is for me to be more like Christ in my everyday life,’ she explained. ‘Where I live or what job I do is secondary. Important but secondary. And going to sleep having rummaged around and put it all to rest, and then invited God into the following day, has not only led to extraordinary peace but a much better night’s sleep! I’m going to be making some important decisions in the next few weeks but now they’re based on a relationship with God and not on my fears and worries. And that’s made a huge difference to my everyday life.’
(i) Come and kneel before this Creator-God,
come and bow before the mighty God, our majestic maker!
For we are those he cares for, and he is the God we worship.
So drop everything else and listen to his voice!
For this is what he’s saying:
“Today, when I speak,
don’t even think about turning a deaf ear to me” (Ps 95: 6-9, TPT)
(ii) The five steps of the traditional Examen.
Penelope Swithinbank is an experienced pilgrimage/retreat leader, conference speaker and Spiritual Counsellor. She has had an international ministry, including churches in America and the UK, and her most special memory is of opening the US Senate in prayer and being guest chaplain for a day. Penelope is an avid walker and spends a lot of her time stomping in the hills and valleys near her home outside Bath.
She is the author of three books, Women by Design and Walking Back to Happiness; her third, Scent of Water, a devotional for times of spiritual bewilderment and grief, has just been published. She is a wife, mother and grandmother and says of the 6 grandchildren that they are so wonderful she should have had them first. www.penelopeswithinbank.com
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Take a mini-retreat and center yourself in God as you gaze at this painting by my dad, Leo Boucher. Ask God through the Holy Spirit to lead you in a few moments of prayer and wonder. You might want to ponder these lines from the Psalms:
Let the heavens rejoice, let the earth be glad;
let the sea resound, and all that is in it.
Let the fields be jubilant, and everything in them;
let all the trees of the forest sing for joy (Psalm 96:11–12, NIV).
How is God leading you in prayer through the experience of pondering his word as aided by a painting?
I really appreciate my new friend Fleur’s thoughts on wonder walking. I’ve never been to her amazing part of the world, and yes, I had to ask her what wattle is, but I too over the pandemic especially appreciated praying outside while noticing God’s amazing beauty. Could you get outside this weekend to do some wonder walking?
In July 2020 I “stumbled” onto Wonder Walking. I was interstate in hotel quarantine for fourteen days. My Dad was dying in the local country hospital, but I wasn’t allowed to see him due to the COVID 19 restrictions on interstate travellers. Not being one for formal prayers, and coming as it did when I was only allowed 1 hour outdoor exercise daily, Wonder Walking was a literal God-send.
The hotel where I was isolating was near a walking track that followed the old trainline into the town. Winding through vineyards and alongside open fields, the path was lined with spring blossom trees, wattle and olives. Animals grazed nearby and looked up as I passed. It was often quite cold, but I found great comfort in these walks as they allowed me to reflect on my grief, to pray for my Dad and to pour out my heart along with my tears to God. Sometimes I saw something really lovely like an unexpected vista as I rounded a corner or a love heart that a previous walker had made out of pebbles next to the track. When that happened, I stopped and took a photo on my phone. This made me really focus on the thing that had captured my imagination and created a greater sense of awe.
Wonder Walking is sometimes called Awe Walking.(1) It is the practice of walking slowly through nature while noticing our surroundings. This deep engagement with nature has been shown to improve mental health, increase gratitude and mindfulness.(2) I would add that it also increases our awareness of God, the creator of our natural surroundings and leads quite naturally into worship and prayer. The hymn How Great Thou Art (3) draws a clear line between these things in the lyrics, “O Lord, my God, when I in awesome wonder consider all the worlds thy hands have made….Then sings my soul, my Saviour, God to Thee. How great thou art.”
You can Wonder Walk anywhere. Your location does not matter – even people living in the inner city can find wonder in street trees, plants pushing through the pavement and sleepy cats cuddled up on apartment block windowsills. You might have to look a bit more closely, but sources of wonder are everywhere. When we take the time to notice the small details of leaves or are impressed with the majesty of tall trees, we tend to feel relatively insignificant. This “small self” (4) gives us a new perspective. It puts God in a place of pre-eminence and lifts our spirits.
I found Wonder Walking so beneficial that I’ve continued the practice. It helps me to pray. Walking along while immersed in nature, my mind wanders towards matters of the heart. The things that I’m concerned about just bubble to the top. I can then easily lay them out before God, for His attention.
Like art, nature has the ability to capture us in a way that restores our soul. Psalm 23 places David outside in nature, by a stream with open green pastures and he finds to restorative. Nature accesses parts of us that are less cerebral and more spiritual. In my experience, Wonder Walking improved my prayer life as it strengthened my connection to God so that I could more easily lean into Him. I come home having benefitted from fresh air, exercise and renewed appreciation for the provision of God.
If you are looking for ways to reinvigorate your prayer life, I encourage you to consider Wonder Walking. Even if you don’t try it until you are away on holidays, you might start something that enriches your spiritual life so much, that you continue the practice when you return home.
Footnotes
Fleur lives in the very beautiful Northern Rivers region of Australia. She authored the book Great Questions: a resource for carers in response to the need for local churches to train members in pastoral care. Fleur is currently training to be a Counsellor. She loves mentoring women, speaking at events and her new spiritual practice – Wonder Walking. [All photos courtesy of Fleur.]
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At this time of the year, I love thinking about spending time in the upper Midwest, when the color of trees rival those in New England. I sense a crisp feeling in the air and take in the slanted sunlight while enjoying the crunch of a Honeycrisp apple. How good is God!
Whether or not we’re surrounded with beauty in our physical setting, we can take a mini-retreat and pray with this lovely painting by my dad using the practice of visio divina (sacred seeing).
What is true prayer? What should we pray about – and what should we not? Peter Thomas poses some questions worth considering. And yes, some of what he says is provocative! What do you think?
“I gave up praying when my goldfish died.”
Those words of a girl in our youth group are probably the most honest thing I have ever heard anybody say about prayer. My friend’s pet fish was ailing and she prayed that it would recover. The goldfish died so she lost her confidence in prayer and, for a time, abandoned her faith in God.
What I am pleading for is reality and honesty in our praying.
There is a world of difference between “saying our prayers” and true Christian prayer. Our “praying” is meaningless if we only say to God the kinds of things we think He wants to hear: good religious requests for suitably worthy causes. Sometimes we can find ourselves asking God for all kinds of things we don’t actually care about at all. We can pray for blessings for people we don’t know, just because these seem like pious topics for prayer. There are simply no examples of that kind of prayer in the Bible. Prayers in the Bible, not least the Prayers of Lament we find in the Psalms, are completely honest.
Jesus makes this amazing promise:
If you remain in me and my words remain in you, ask whatever you wish, and it will be given you. (John 15:7)
God will give to disciples of Jesus “whatever you wish for”: whatever you really want. But these have to be things we actually care about. Not just passing whims but things we long for with a passion.
Suppose one of my children came to me one day saying, “We saw a programme about children in Africa, there was this little girl who looked so hungry – I don’t know what her name was – she was only on for 10 seconds – but can we make sure she gets enough to eat and is never hungry again?” Suppose instead she came day after day saying, “There’s this little girl in my class and I’m so sad because she always seems hungry and never has new clothes and says she doesn’t have any toys – can we help her please Daddy, please?” You know which request I would answer.
We can make the mistake of believing that it would be selfish to ask for things for ourselves, or for our family, or for our friends, or for our neighbours, or for our church. Some Christians seem to think that it is more spiritual to ask God for things on behalf of people who are half a world away, than it is to pray for ourselves and our nearest and dearest. That misunderstands prayer. Unless we really care about helping strangers in remote lands, unless we are passionate enough to send off a cheque, or unless we have friends working in those troubled areas, it is not deeply spiritual to say prayers about such people and places. Unless we really care about the requests we make, we aren’t really praying at all.
When you are asking God for something, try this test. You could even call it ‘the Goldfish Test’. Suppose God does not grant your request. Would you feel really sad, really disappointed, maybe a bit angry? Would you feel let down if God did not answer your prayers? If you would not, if life would go on just as before, if your relationship with God wasn’t affected in the slightest if God didn’t answer this particular prayer, then you aren’t really praying at all – you’re just saying prayers. As Thomas Brooks once said,
“Cold prayers always freeze before they reach heaven”.
These lines from a hymn by S.S. Wesley make the point:
“Let prayer be prayer, and praise be heartfelt praise; From unreality, O set us free”.
We need to be completely honest with God about what we really want. True prayer is making requests where it will be very clear to everybody what answers God has given. Not beating about the bush. Not covering our bets. But specific requests for things we care about. We need to get real with God!
Rev Peter Thomas is minister of North Springfield Baptist Church in Chelmsford, UK. He has been a minister for 35 years and serves as the Treasurer of The College of Baptist Ministers and as a trustee/director of the Eastern Baptist Association. He writes three blogs and various websites, and has published books on discipleship and on evangelism, all found at www.pbthomas.com
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Where should we pray? And when? How can we keep our relationship with God fresh? Join Dave Faulkner for some thought-provoking ideas about where to read the Bible (and the photo is the downstairs loo in the vicarage so he’s not alone!).
“Well, I’ve never seen a Bible in the bathroom before.”
So said my colleague Jackie, returning from a comfort break during a staff meeting at our manse.
“Books yes, magazines yes, but a Bible? How holy are you?” she continued.
Would that I were. The explanation is more prosaic.
When our children were small, the only place I could grab peace and quiet for my daily Bible reading and prayer was when I visited that small room. Not only was a Bible there, so were my daily Bible reading notes from Scripture Union and my collection of prayer letters and prayer diaries from friends and Christian organisations. Those small children were now teenagers, but I still filed the Bible in that room.
I must admit that after Jackie’s observation I moved it to my study.
But it highlighted a prayer routine that had become stagnant, and I knew it. Read the assigned Bible passage, try to consider my own reactions, then read the notes. After that, go through the prayer requests.
This practice had its virtues. Prayer diaries from Tearfund, Christian Solidarity Worldwide and others alerted me to worldwide needs I would otherwise have missed. Some of them have made it into church intercessions on Sundays as well.
But for someone in the evangelical tradition, which loudly proclaims that Christianity is a relationship, not a ritual, it felt awfully like the latter.
So what has modelled a more relational approach to prayer for me? There lies the irony: I have found that practices which originated in more liturgical spiritualities such as Catholicism to be doorways into a more conversational approach to God. Even a loose approach to Lectio Divina helps me talk with God about what he is saying through the Scriptures. The Examen can do something similar as I reflect on my day.
For several years, the best introduction I have known to these prayer disciplines has been Ruth Haley Barton’s book and DVD Sacred Rhythms. When I was asked at a church meeting to provide teaching on prayer, that was the course I laid on. Sadly, the person who requested the teaching never attended the course: isn’t that always the way?
But now I can put Amy’s book 7 Ways To Pray alongside Ruth Haley Barton. What I love about the book is that Amy gives a brief, simple introduction to the different prayer habits, and that’s enough to get you going. If you want more details, you can find other books. This gives her the space in each chapter for the worked examples of a particular prayer model in action. Amy puts flesh on the bones, and the form becomes more visible in the mind of the reader.
None of this magically makes prayer simple. I still need to wrestle myself away from the screen, keyboard, and mouse that dominate my workspace. The Covid lockdown has made it even harder with a wife working from home and children studying at home, so the quiet spaces are more elusive. Maybe that’s good. My wife and I have to be very intentional to spend time together. Perhaps it isn’t surprising that it should be the same if I am to have a conversation with God.
Although if push comes to shove, there is one small room I could utilise …
Dave Faulkner is a Methodist minister and amateur photographer. He is married to Debbie and they have three children – a teenage girl, a teenage boy, and a cocker spaniel. Visit him at bigcircumstance.com or flickr.com/photos/davefaulkner
I’m in good company, Dave; I have such a high regard for Ruth Haley Barton!
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How can we fix our minds on Christ? One way to practice the presence of God – to remind ourselves that through his Spirit he lives within those who follow him – is to focus on certain Bible passages.
Why not set aside a week to engage with this way of praying? Following are seven Scripture texts – you could focus on a different one each day.
Know that God delights to meet us when we pray.