As one of those tasked with caring for Oswald and Biddy Chambers’ books and resources, I love sharing from their wisdom.
Here is my adaptation of “The Relinquished Life,” from My Utmost for His Highest, the wonderful new modern classic edition recently published that shares the goodness and authenticity of their message in today’s language.
How is God’s Spirit calling you to surrender? What will you gain in doing so? (Spoiler alert – everything.)
Feel free to pause the video at any point as you ponder and reflect with God.
Join me in this prayer from the Church of England as we begin with Lent, the 40 days of prayer, fasting, and giving as we prepare for Easter.
Holy God, our lives are laid open before you: rescue us from the chaos of sin and through the death of your Son bring us healing and make us whole in Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.
Artwork by Leo Boucher; used with permission; all rights reserved.
Easter is early this year, which means that Lent of course starts early too! Ash Wednesday is on 18 February, just over a week away.
How might you spend this time leading up to Easter? Feel daunted by the traditional approach of prayer, fasting, and almsgiving? Lent can be a time for those practices, of course, but God is pleased with any and all of the ways we seek to draw close to him.
I have some resources for you to help.
• Tomorrow (11 February) I’ll be on Premier Christian Radio at 11am (UK time) for an hour discussing with Mal Pope some strategies for staying close to God during Lent. [Edit: you can find the recording here, including an imaginative prayer exercise with Jesus in the wilderness.]
• On Saturday 21 February, I’ll be leading an online retreat sponsored by Coracle on Friendship with God, looking at the story of Mary, Martha, and Lazarus with Jesus. So much of the key events of their story in the gospels comes during Lent, and I trust you’ll be encouraged. You can find my full exploration in my book Transforming Love.
• My book The Living Cross is a through-the-Bible look at forgiveness, half in the Old Testament and half in the new. I’ll be giving away a copy of this book with my next newsletter.
• The Prayers of Jesus is a small-group course that explores 6 of the 7 prayers of Jesus recorded in the gospels. So many of these occur during Lent. There’s a prayer exercise included for each week. And…
• The online course for the above is a great resource as I so enjoyed my conversations with the amazing Micah Jazz, who has now gone to glory. Wow – I think this is now free!
Jesus said, “Whoever finds their life will lose it, and whoever loses their life for my sake will find it” (Matthew 10:39, NIV). But these feel like hard words – self-sacrifice for ultimate gain? How can we even embrace this invitation, even if we want to?
It’s one of the upside-down truths of the kingdom of God that he gives us the ability to lose our lives and then to find them through his love. As Thomas Merton, the Trappist monk, observed, When we look for God, he’ll sow during every moment of our lives, grains of his life that one day will spring up in a tremendous harvest.
Join me on the shores of the south coast of England (near Milford-on-Sea) to pray through Jesus’ startling invitation to find ourselves when we lose ourselves in God. We’ll incorporate some of Merton’s insights from his book, New Seeds of Contemplation. Feel free to pause the video at any point as you ponder and reflect with God.
These themes of losing ourselves to find ourselves are those I explore in my award-winning book, Still Finding Myself in Britain. Please consider joining in my through-the-year look at life in the UK as we engage with themes of faith, home, and identity.
So many books… so little time – because of scrolling? We all fall prey to distractions and interruptions, don’t we. After being humbled in 2024 when I realized that I only read 22 books that year, I was more intentional in 2025, reading 43 books (but still down from the 60-something I used to read).
One reason for adding to the list is the number of classic novels I listened to via the Sleepy Bookshelf app, in which Elizabeth the narrator puts on a welcoming and gentle voice and lolls you to sleep. I enjoyed The Enchanted April, Emma, The Secret Garden, and others because of this wonderful podcast. Highly recommend if you struggle to fall back asleep – and sleep headphones will help you stay quiet if you share a bed.
In scanning the books I read, I see a lot of 2.5 and 3.5 starts out of 5. I won’t share those with you, but offer 5 fiction titles and 1 non-fiction for you to enjoy. In no particular order…
The Maid’s Secret by Nita Prose
Utterly delightful. This is the third in the Maid series, and I marvelled at how a third book could rival the first. But it does. In fact, I think it might even be better.
There’s a back and forth timeswap aspect with Molly’s current mystery and her gran’s backstory. That’s all I’ll say as the uncovering of both work together wonderfully.
I finished it last night with a pleased sigh of contentment. I’ve listened to all three, and the narrator does so well with the voices. Feels a familiar sound…
I love that there’s never any mention of Molly’s neurodiversity, but as the reader/listener we figure it out. A massive ‘show, don’t tell’ by the author.
The Names by Florence Knapp
A fascinating novel, which traces the lives of a family through the naming of the son via three different names. It took me a bit to get into this format – I wondered how tiresome this might become – but soon was captivated (especially when I learned that the author jumped ahead in seven-year segments, which kept the story moving).
Interesting to ponder how life can differ according to what name you’re given…
TW: the novel refers to domestic abuse.
This Must Be the Place by Maggie O’Farrell
A stunning book with so many different first-person points of view, alternating by chapter. I’d start off the chapter with a new character wondering who in the world they were and how they would fit – suspense held, waiting to see…. It’s an effective device for keeping the reader’s interest. I really enjoyed the chapter at the back explaining how the author had been going through a building project while writing, and how the physical moving around of her space somehow unlocked a different level of creativity. Along with her toddler child removing, while she was writing, all of the post-it notes she had arranged with the novel’s structure. Which made her throw out the conventional ways novels appear, leading to her chapter of photos of items up for auction (which I didn’t think worked and wanted to skip over but I made myself read).
Haunting, lyrical, engaging, lovely… everything you might hope for from a Maggie O’Farrell novel. I picked this up at a charity shop but it’s one I won’t part with right away. I read it too fast and will allow a slower, more luxurious read in a few years (including looking up the words I didn’t know the meaning of!).
I recognize I haven’t said anything about the book itself – its characters, the plot, etc. It hops around from Ireland to the States to South America to England and in between, but she holds it all together around one main character… Intrigued? Read it!
Wish You Well by David Baldacci
An engaging novel, set in the late 1930s. What a change for the young children when their family suffers a car accident, killing their novelist father and putting their mother into a coma. They move to their grandmother’s home in the mountains of Virginia, a harsh location to exist in.
I appreciated the emotional coming of age for Lou, the young daughter, as she and her younger brother leave New York City for a farming-in-Appalachia experience. Ups and downs and perhaps too tidy of an ending but I didn’t mind…
Compelling writing. Love that it was based on oral storytelling within the author’s family.
We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman
A wrenching story of friendship, charting the last months of lifelong friends as one succumbs to cancer. Full of highs and lows; the coping mechanisms of grief when the simply unfathomable becomes reality.
I loved Ash, the protagonist, and Edie, in them seeing reflections of my own lifelong friendship with Kristen. The shared jokes over the decades; the way the friends see so many parts of each other – many that others miss.
I loved nearly everything about this book. The only niggle was really big though, the idea that a mother who had devoted herself to her child could remove herself from him for the last weeks of her life. This pushed believability too much; I just couldn’t buy it.
Other than that, a really lovely read. Five stars.
Everything Sad Is Untrue: (A True Story) by Daniel Nayeri
I so enjoyed listening to this book, especially because the author narrated it. I loved hearing his inflection on words – the way he said his home country, Iran, or how he voiced the words in Farsi. It’s an engaging account of his memories of leaving his beloved home and world as a young boy and becoming a refugee – one with a patchwork of memories. What is true? That’s a question he raises more than once, and it’s worth pondering in our own lives.
His stories, whether in Oklahoma where they found refuge or in the land of honey and jasmine, captured me. Themes of home, identity, family, personhood, and hospitality abound, among others. There are, sadly, stories of domestic abuse too. Highly recommend.
We’re so close to Christmas, but I’m only making my first batch of Christmas cookies today! That’s just been the state of our Advent. In searching through my online filing system, I came across this article that appeared in the 2014 Woman Alive December issue, with a few recipes of our favorites at Christmas. Complete with photos of the CutiePyeKids.
For more recipes, and to hear about my sad first Christmas in England, check out the 10th anniversary edition of my first book, Still Finding Myself in Britain.
The worries, cares, and uncertainties we face in life can crowd out our peace. But what if we’ve misunderstood what God means by peace? Join me in encountering God and receiving his peace and comfort in this mini-retreat, filmed at sunset by the shores of Lake Josephine in Roseville, Minnesota. In doing so we’ll prayerfully engage with Isaiah 61:1–3. As you focus on the God of peace, he will fill you with his peace.
Do feel free to stop the video and pause in prayer to receive from God.
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Join me for a mini-retreat, with time to pause, reflect on Scriputre, and experience God? Here’s my latest prayer practice (of 7 minutes) that I sent out with my monthly newsletter, perfect for this season of Advent.
We’ll be engaging with some lectio divina (prayerful reading) of the first part of John’s gospel (John 1:1–5, 9, 14, NIV). During the Advent season, it’s beneficial and meaningful to ponder Jesus, the true light who has come into the world.
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So what is spiritual direction? We’ve inherited this term, and unfortunately, it may conjure up images of a somewhat scary authority figure telling another what to do. That’s not my desire or my way of working! A better name is spiritual accompaniment, which captures the role of one who seeks to notice God’s working in the life of another.
In SD sessions, we examine the person’s relationship with God, how this relationship can flourish, and the directions God is inviting them into. I find it such a joy to hear how people notice God working in their lives and how they are responding to God’s invitations. Often they will have one main topic they’d like to explore in a session.
With my desire to facilitate people encountering God, I offer an opening prayer exercise (such as one from my book 7 Ways to Pray). I give a choice between two or three different ones, as it can be interesting for the directee to notice how they react (including resistance). Of course, they don’t need to start off the session in this way; it’s completely up to them. I’ve found it joyful and encouraging to lead one person in a prayer exercise (in contrast to a group), learning and modifying over the years – such as inviting people to turn off their cameras for privacy, asking them to choose how long to be in silence instead of me moving them along after a set amount of time, and inviting them afterward if they want to share about the prayer time or to address another topic.
Spiritual direction is about the slow but sure work of God. Hearing people notice how they are changing under the Spirit’s loving care brings me such joy. I count it a gift and privilege to walk with some of God’s beloved in this way.
Want more?
You might appreciate reading this short article on why spiritual direction matters to spiritual formation published by Coracle, with whom I’m associated as a SD. Wondering what the difference is between SD and other helping professions such as mentors, coaches, and counsellors? I recommend this article by Margot Eyring, who heads up the SDs at Coracle. I also recommend these 11 questions to consider asking a prospective spiritual director.
Find out more about Amy from visiting her YouTube channel with prayer practices or on social media sites too. She also writes a monthly newsletter and has written seven books and numerous devotional articles.
On this launch day for Still Finding Myself in Britain, I find myself unsettled and lonely for local friends. We moved a couple of months ago, and the house isn’t sorted yet and I don’t have a new gym or local connections.
As I consider my needs, I remember how God has met me in the past, namely when I moved country! As I found myself in Britain, I found myself in God. Yes I made blunders and gaffes, but my new countrypeople accepted me, even while poking fun at me in a lovingly British way! And I learned more about who I am in God, how God has created me, and who I am becoming in him.
God didn’t fail me before, and I believe he won’t now!
How do you need God to meet your needs today? How can you find yourself in God?
Find out more in the wonderful new tenth-anniversary edition of Still Finding Myself in Britain, with a fabulous new foreword by Paul Kerensa and published by Authentic Media.