Tag: fiveminutefriday

  • Five Minute Friday: Seasons of hospitality

    A table bursting with items for afternoon tea, including jams, cream, cake, and scones.
    My friend whipped up afternoon tea for us this week. She’s a star.

    My heart warmed when I saw that today’s prompt for Five-Minute Friday was “hospitality.” I’ve written a few posts on the topic in the past, which you can find here.

    Being an American in London, I’ve been able to host many a traveler passing through our wonderful capital city. Until some things happened in my family, and we had to pull up the drawbridge for a time. I felt bad when I could tell people were gently inquiring – without asking formally – if they could come and stay, and I didn’t respond with an invitation. And a couple of times I had to flat-out say “no” to the request.

    But that was the right answer for that season, and after the tough thing of saying no, I felt relief. After all, exercising boundaries is healthy and good, even if hard. And when I intimated some of the challenges we faced, the people understood.

    That season reinforced the notion of loving oneself as well as one’s neighbor, in Jesus’ great commandment. We often focus so much on the latter part of that command that we forget we need to extend hospitality to ourselves too. And, if we have them, to our children – a point that Leslie Verner makes in her lovely book Invited. After all, parents are only really hosting their children for a couple of decades before launching them out into the world.

    What’s your approach to hospitality? Have you experienced seasons of openness and seasons of huddling together?

    I am taking part in the #fiveminutefriday community. To write your own and link up with the other writers, you can do so here.

  • Five Minute Friday: How to influence someone (as Oswald Chambers would)

    Oswald and Biddy with their daughter Kathleen. From https://utmost.org/oswald-chambers-bio/

    As I read more of Oswald Chambers’ works, he the Scottish Baptist minister who died a hundred years ago at the age of forty-one, I appreciate increasingly one of his often-repeated insights – don’t interfere in what God is doing in the life of another. Instead, trust that God through his Holy Spirit will work in that person’s life. God’s influence will be so much stronger than our moral bludgeoning of them.

    As Oswald says:

    Our Lord’s counsel to His disciples is, “Be as the lily and the star.” When a man is born from above he is inclined to become a moral policeman, one who unconsciously presents himself as better than others, an intolerable spiritual prig. Who are those who influence us most? Those who “buttonhole” us, or those who live their lives as the stars in the heaven and the lily of the field, perfectly simple and unaffected? These are the lives that mould us, our mothers and wives and friends who are of that order, and that is the order the Holy Spirit produces. If you want to be of use, get rightly related to Jesus Christ and He will make you of use unconsciously every moment you live; the condition is believing on Him.*

    I find this challenging, for I can be quick to make pronouncements or reach conclusions about another’s actions or beliefs. But I don’t have the whole story. I can’t see into their heart like God can. Instead, I’ll be a better influence if I’m right with Christ, as it were; if I am pouring myself out in intercession for that person, asking God to work his ways with them.

    What do you think of this exercise of influence?

    I am taking part in the #fiveminutefriday community. To write your own and link up with the other writers, you can do so here.

    I contributed a chapter in Utmost Ongoing about the influence of Oswald and Biddy Chambers, which you can buy in the UK and US. (affiliate link)

    * Oswald Chambers, Studies in the Sermon on the Mount, found in The Complete Works of Oswald Chambers (Grand Rapids, MI: Discovery House, 2000), p. 1459. I’ve slightly updated the language.

  • Five Minute Friday: A Better Use of Words

    Handwritten stencil of the word 'better'

    “You’d better get your homework done!”

    “She’s better than you.”

    “I’m going to be the better person here and let that comment slide…”

    Better. It’s a strange word when you stare at it too long. And it can so easily have negative connotations – threats, negative comparisons, and so on. The Israelites used it in their grumbling:

    “Didn’t we say to you in Egypt, ‘Leave us alone; let us serve the Egyptians”? It would have been better for us to serve the Egyptians than to die in the desert!’” (Exodus 14:12)

    “Why is the Lord bringing us to this land only to let us fall by the sword? Our wives and children will be taken as plunder. Wouldn’t it be better for us to go back to Egypt?” (Numbers 14:3)

    But better, as with so many words, can be used for praise, too. It’s not only negative. I love these verses from the Psalms that can fill our mind with worship and song:

    “Because your love is better than life, my lips will glorify you” (Psalm 63:3).

    “Better is one day in your courts than a thousand elsewhere; I would rather be a doorkeeper in the house of my God than dwell in the tents of the wicked” (Psalm 84:10).

    When you speak today, what words will you utter, and for what use?

    (I am taking part in the #fiveminutefriday community. To write your own and link up with the other writers, you can do so here.)

  • Five Minute Friday: Not settling for less

    Today’s Five-minute Friday prompt is settle. As in, “She really settled,” said the snide friend about another. Or, “Settle down!” said the mom to her rambunctious child.

    A bit of an odd prompt for this Good Friday, I thought, but then I did a quick internet search and came up with the second definition:

    To pay in full.

    To settle the debt.

    It’s all settled.

    And that’s a good way to look at Good Friday. Jesus died to settle our debt with the Father, that we might enjoy life in the kingdom, from the moment we ask him into our lives.

    We certainly don’t settle for less. Rather, we embrace life in all of its fullness.

    May you know the loving glance of the Father, who sent his only Son to die that we might live.

    May you know the refreshing embrace of the Savior, who loves us so much that he bled for us.

    May you experience the comforting refreshment of the Spirit, whose gentle breeze brings peace.

    And may you remember that you’re not settling for less when Jesus settled your debt.

    This post is part of the weekly Five Minute Friday link-up. You can find today’s prompt here.

  • Five Minute Friday: Anything but Routine

    Photo: Sacha Chua, flickr

    Routines make up the stuff of life.

    Whether from brushing our teeth to making the bed (or not) to checking our social-media feeds, we fill our lives with actions that we do again and again. Some of the routines can be life-giving, and some can suck the energy from us.

    Some of my best routines? One is going to the gym regularly. I’m off to body combat soon, which makes me happy and feel alive. I have some lovely friends at the gym, and when I don’t feel like going, I know that I will be letting them down if I don’t. Sometimes we let each other off the hook, but so many times after our sweat sessions, we’ve remarked how glad we are that we went, and how we wouldn’t have if we hadn’t texted our friend beforehand.

    Another is my weekly writing video call with two writer friends. Some weeks I can’t attend, but I try to make it a priority (even missing out on other gym classes – see above) because of the life that it brings to me and my friends. We cry together, get real, encourage each other, and share our writing. As we remarked yesterday, we are each other’s people. The way our writing calls are structured, we actually get some writing done too – I got a devotional drafted yesterday that I certainly would not have done had I been left to my own devices.

    Those two routines involve other people, but one I do on my own definitely feeds my soul – my Bible reading and prayer times. I can’t claim to have a “proper” time every day, but when I do, I feel more centered in God and ready to face the day. Lately I’ve been taking a chunk of the gospels and putting it into poetic verse. This is a way for me to slow down and digest the words of Jesus, to get them rolling through my head and my heart.

    What routines do you embrace? Why, or why not?

    This post is part of the weekly Five Minute Friday link-up. You can find today’s prompt here.

  • Five-Minute Friday: Moving Beyond Sloth

    By ConleyHistorical (Own work), Creative Commons

    In the past couple of months, when people would ask me how I am, I’d often reply, “Tired.”

    I have been weary to the bone; tired in body and spirit. Writing two books in quick succession, powering through my MA in Christian spirituality all in a too-compressed time period, and some personal issues have left me spent. Mind you, most of this is of my own doing. I could have spaced things out a bit more.

    So lately I’ve been trying to recover, resting with a purpose, as I’ve seen my friends with chronic illnesses practice. I’m not so sure I’m very successful at that type of resting, however, for once I slowed down, I seemed to collapse into a state of acedia – that malaise and lack of interest in much of life that the church fathers named as a deadly sin (often called sloth). Binge-watching medical dramas seemed about the level of what I was capable of, and my to-read pile of books started to pile up even higher. I neglected my weekly blog posts and have a long list of people to whom I owe an email.

    But this week, after the #BeastfromtheEast had thawed, part of my soul started to wake up too from its winter hibernation. I attended a seminar by one of my favorite lecturers at Heythrop College, Eddie Howells, on St John of the Cross on human and divine desire. The experience of thinking deeply again about things of the spirit and soul, along with spending time in the college library doing some research, felt like the start of a gentle awakening.

    May it continue.

    This post is part of the weekly Five Minute Friday link-up. You can find today’s prompt here. Did you join the linkup? Please share your blog in the comments, and tell me if you feel tired.

  • Five Minute Friday: Unfelt Needs (#FMF)

    A writing friend encouraged me to join the #fiveminutefriday clan with writing for five minutes (yes, it’s self-explanatory) on their prompt. Here are my thoughts on what we need. Have five minutes and want to join in?

    What do I think of when I hear the word needs? What pops into my head is felt needs. It’s an awful-sounding buzz phrase in publishing circles, in which products are created to meet someone’s felt needs. The needs we feel. The needs that will make us part with money.

    Felt needs.

    But what about the unfelt needs? What about the needs that aren’t sexy or those I might miss? The need to love and be loved. The need to love God and be loved by him. The need to make a difference, help people encounter him, serve others. To learn; to grow; to effect change. Those things aren’t necessarily quantifiable or something to be packaged into a saleable form.

    What unfelt needs am I aware of today, and how can I see God’s hand in them? What unfelt needs can I call forth in others?

    How can my writing meet hidden needs? Needs that might not be heralded or lauded? Can I be brave enough to write something that might be overlooked?

    Unfelt needs. What do you think?

     

    This post is part of the weekly Five Minute Friday link-up. You can find today’s prompt here.